Do you see where you trade passive-agressive comments?
Do you notice where you stone-wall and shut down?
Does your partner threaten to leave when you argue?
Do you want your partner to HEAR what you're trying to say instead of pretending that they're listening?
Does your partner come home from work, mentally shut off, have a minimum half-hour bathroom session to kind of play with the kids while still on his phone while you make dinner?
Are you upset that you're exhausted, ask them to help you but then get even MORE upset because now you have guilt that you don't have the energy to do it in the first place, or that they're helping you even though you know that they're tired too?
Do you snap at each other about logistics and constantly feel attacked by your partner because everything you say has a negative comment returned?
You're tired of doing the same thing, talking about the same thing constantly and feel like you have to nag your partner to plan a date or take initiative in planning for the family?
But you know how you feel about them. You still love them and you've both been attempting to make and effort - and know that more effort needs to be made - but there doesn't feel like there's another time?
These things happening in your daily life are irksome but you know you're not ready to quite give up yet and you feel that not everything needs to change, just a few things.
Happily Ever After, Kindred's exclusive online course, takes out the fight of all those little things that are driving you nuts and wanting to change. When both sides understand why the little stuff is driving you up the wall, you won't be tired fighting about who does the dishes or who's turn it is to put the kids to bed.
This course teaches you how to have a productive conversation with your partner instead of talking in circles. It teaches you how to take out the transactional feeling that can come with a long-term relationship and give you more of a feeling of fairness and equality.
We aren't really taught how to be in a relationship.
We learn from experience.
We know what we like and don’t like based off of what has happened to us in the past. This is where we get to know our boundaries.
The issue is we often don’t like to express our boundaries because we don’t like to feel vulnerable and when we get into that mindset is usually when we feel disconnected from our partners.
We want our partners to be mind readers. We want them to know that something is wrong or that they did something wrong automatically but this is a trap. We trap them into not being able to do anything right which gives us the upper hand in the relationship and keeps us on the metaphorical pedestal.
We’ve been there.
And longer than we’d like to admit to ourselves.
As humans we are designed to want to belong.
It’s our nature.
The thing in life that you are missing the most is intimacy and not only the physical intimacy but the intimacy that comes with connection. We confuse passion for obsession and we have a level of standards mixed with expectations that is impossible even for us to meet.
Our goal is always to be proactive instead of being reactive. We can be ahead of the game, knowing and anticipating and feeling prepared.
This will give you the opportunity for being heard and understood allowing a fully open conversation.
Fights and arguments are inevitable but being able to turn them into productive discussions is always the goal.
No more slamming doors, no more name calling, no more running off, no more stonewalling.
If you answered yes to any (or all) of these, then you are in the right place.
We like to call the “perfect relationship” the practical fairytale.
We know that perfection doesn't exist.
We know that when two people are involved that not everything is going to fall into place, just right, every time.
We also know that life happens and situations/circumstances change and what you once thought you wanted...isn't what you hoped it would be.
You can strive for balance, you can strive for ease, you can strive for stability.
What you can expect is respect, love and loyalty.
You can get to a point where what happens in the outside world doesn’t matter anymore because you know that to them, they will choose you and that you choose them (in-laws be damned).
It all starts with trust.
The whole course is built to develop a whole new level of trust in your relationship with your partner to be able to vocalize your thoughts, feelings and emotions - negative and positive. Not more justification or permission. We're here to help you find effective communication so your whole life feels like a "yes, let's figure out when" for BOTH of you.
We’ve spent years teaching and perfecting our practice and are obsessed with building connection and intimacy between romantic partners and platonic relationships.
Making a change doesn’t just happen - it requires effort, focus and investment. Investment meaning time, energy and yes, sometimes money (for date nights and special gifts).
In this extensive online relationship course you will understand the why behind all of these relationship struggles and more importantly, what to do about it.
It is broken down into three units with a corresponding workbook that are released weekly in your private log-in through our website.
You start immediately with three quizzes to help you learn more about yourself and who you are in regards to your love language, attachment style and need for accountability (we walk you through all of these).
Week One Video One: Cup Filling and Giving and Receiving
Week One Video Two: Attachment Theory, Reactions, Tapping into Chaos and Gaslighting
Week Two Video One: Trust, Conditions and Expectations, Anger/Fear/Sadness and Insecurities in Relationships
Week Two Video Two: Trapping, Testing, Meeting people where they're at and how to hold space.
Week Three Video One: What you want, why you want it, passion, intimacy and connection
Week Three Video Two: Shame Cycling, how to make a decision to leave or stay, letting go of resentment and working on forgiveness
Every unit includes: Two videos per unit with extensive information about what to do when different situations happen inside of your relationship.
Substantial workbooks with life-altering journal prompts to teach you why all of this is happening and what you can do about it in order to have the best relationship(s) EVER.
A private Facebook group where we provide additional teachings, resources and interactive support personally with Renee and Megan. *If you do not have Facebook, we can make arrangements via email.
To The Moon and Back bundle valued at $250 (3 hours of additional Q&A videos from our initial launch and teaching with worksheets and quick solutions to everyday problems).
A Little Book On How To Argue valued at $19.99 (a pdf version of our published book that teaches you reasons and techniques that make arguing a little bit easier).
Happily Ever After can be done as a couple or even as an individual if your partner doesn't want to participate. It can be done as someone who is single but wanting to be proactive in designing your dream relationship and don’t want to repeat past mistakes.
We focus our course on romantic relationships but the teaching will give you a strong foundation for all the relationships in your life (even your children or parents).
We might not be able to teach you how to get the magical forest animals to do your housework but we can certainly give you the tools and resources to remove any obstacles.
Claim the amazing love that you deserve.
1. Does my spouse have to participate with me? They do not. The course is designed to be done either with or without your partner.
2. Do I need to have a romantic partner? No. The course is also excellent for healing past relationships and can be applied for what you would look for in your next partner, and even applicable to your family, friends, coworkers and children. We teach for romantic partners but it's a relationship course, not a marriage course.
3. I want to keep this private - what's the Facebook group for? We wanted a safe space to help keep accountable to finish up and to be able to ask questions. It's voluntary to join that we work on the honour system of keeping information confidential.
4. Can I do this at my own pace? Absolutely. The content rolls out one week at a time so that you're not overwhelmed but there's no rush to finish it on pace - you can work at it as you'd like and a lot of our clients often redo the course. You have lifetime access.
5. How is this different from couple's therapy? The course is created to work on the every day behaviours and patterns we have with the people in our lives in smaller, practical doses without emotional overwhelm. It's independent, self-reflective study.
How are you going to feel afterwards?
You're going to understand how you and your partner each work.
You're going to feel relieved.
You're going to feel that the work your'e doing is actually making a difference.
YOu'll be able to put words to what you're asking for so that you can have effective communication.
YOu'll be able to let go of the anger and sadness from past relationships.
You'll be able to be fully present in your relationship now and be in what your ideal relationship is.
You're going to feel like you are in your happily ever after.