The only thing you can control is how you respond

anxiety help selfcare work zen Jun 16, 2021
The only thing you can control is how you respond

Feeling like nothing is working out the way you planned?

That no one is listening or following through with what you’re asking them to do?

When we subconsciously feel like nothing is working, our automatic response is to try and control everything and everyone around us. ESPECIALLY the people we live with and are married too 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩💏👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨 and especially-especially our children.

You can help gain more control in your life by focusing on HOW YOU RESPOND to what people are doing instead of focusing on what people are doing around you.

For example, your husband leaves his dirty socks all over the house. You’ve asked him *thousands* of times to pick them up. You nag. Yell. Get passive-aggressive by picking them up angrily without saying anything. Throw them all in the garbage. Leave them to see how long it will be before he picks them up himself (aka never). What you want is to CONTROL the behavior.

What you can do is control your response. Ask yourself if you’re just looking for a fight for attention? Is it really a big deal during the week or can you compromise and have him pick them up on Fridays? Do you just want them off your floor to avoid your mom’s judgment? Does it really actually matter? Can you call explain that outer order is an inner calm and helps with your anxiety? Can you put a basket by where he takes off his shoes and he can put the socks in there?

We feel out of control when we stop focusing on our response. Your reaction and feelings are valid but where you can make the change and feel like you’re in control is how you RESPOND.

We got you, Boo. We get how you feel and can help you through it.